Saturday, March 7, 2009

Trophy

I want a trophy wife that has everything I want and need to raise a family, and will love me and stay with me until death do us part.

Athletes and entertainers are held to a high standard when it comes to fashion and style. But another talked about area is wives and girlfriends. I was in the barbershop a couple days ago and regular barbershop chatter was going on about sports; and the topic of players wives came up and I heard a comment that bothered me: "Man, I saw PLAYER X and his wife during the all star weekend and she is not an NBA wife." That's not the first time I've heard a comment like that. I don't understand why so much emphasis is put on athletes wives appearance. In this certain instance, the player has been married to his wife for a long time, so I look at it like his wife may not be Halle Berry, but shes doing something right to keep a marriage going 10+ years in 2009.

When a man is looking for a wife, hes supposed to be searching for a woman of high moral character who will take good care of him, turn his house into a happy home, and be there to support him and help him and the family grow mentally, physically, and spiritually, and is attractive to him. (Because these qualities are very important,) While you are looking for all that, you may not get a beauty queen but a great woman with a great heart. Would you rather have eye candy on your arm that may leave you in 5-7 years, or a good woman that may not have the look of the stereotypical "athletes wife" but will be your best friend for a lifetime? 

Reality is, it's possible to have both, a beautiful woman that is down for you and loves you till the end but it does not always work out like that. My point is: why should how pretty an athletes wife is define who she is as a woman or a wife? After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.


3 comments:

  1. WOW! This perspective should be shared by others. The quality of a person should be measured by their deeds, not their look. Unfortunately for athlete's wives, they become as much in the spot light at the athletes themselves. I feel 2 ways about this: 1.Women should pride themselves on how well they take care of self, especially in public. 2.If he loves her what is it to you what she looks like?
    One day we're gonna wake up....I'll be glad when that day comes.

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  2. I agree with everything you had to say George. Beauty is definately in the eye of the beholder. It is what you feel in your heart and soul. I read your comment on Yardbarker that your parents are married 29 years. Please tell them that I think that is awesome. My parents will be married 44 years in May, and my grandparents(mom's parents) had their 70th wedding anniversary last November. Like you said in your YB comments, it is hard work but so beautiful.

    I love the way that you do everything the right way on and off the field. This means everything to me. That is beauty in the eyes of this beholder. Take care and God Bless! My thoughts and prayers are with you always!!!!

    Eric

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  3. im glad to see a pro. athlete actually writing something like this. society has trained our minds to "fall in lust" and stop looking for love. thats why you see all the Hollywood marriages fall apart in months. I could no agree more with you on what a man should be looking for in a woman. glad to see you think on a different level than status quo.

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